If anyone
favors his wife over his mother...!
If anyone
favors his wife over his mother...! Good Hadith
Posted by: "Omar Rashid" nazrawee@yahoo.com
nazrawee
Date: Wed Jul 2, 2008 12:35 pm
At the time of the Prophet (saww), there was a young man named Alqamah. He was
very
diligent in obeying Allah by engaging in prayer and fasting and spending in
charity. Then he fell ill and his illness became serious. His wife went to the
Prophet and said, 'My husband, Alqamah, is on his deathbed. I therefore came to
tell you, Messenger of Allah, about his condition.'
The Prophet (saww) sent for Ammar, Suhaib and Bilal, and told them to go to him
(Alqamah) and have him repeat the Shahadah. They went to him and found him in
the agony of death. They asked him to say, 'La illaha illa Allah,' but his
tongue was unable to pronounce it. At that, they came and told the Messenger of
Allah that he was unable to repeat the Shahadah.
The Prophet asked, 'Is either of his parents alive?'
He was told, 'Messenger of Allah, his mother is, but she is very old.'
The Prophet sent her a message that if it was convenient for her (if she was
able to go
out), she should come to him; otherwise she should stay in her house and the
Prophet would come to her.
The Prophet's messenger came to her and informed her of the Prophet's message.
She said, 'May my life be a ransom for him, it is my pleasure to go to him!'
She stood up, leaning on her walking stick, and came to the Prophet and greeted
him.
The Prophet returned her greeting and said to her, 'Umm Alqamah, tell me the
truth, for otherwise Allah Most High will reveal the truth to me! What is the
situation concerning your son, Alqamah?'
She replied, 'Messenger of Allah, he prays much, fasts a great deal, and spends
a great
amount in charity.'
The Prophet said, 'And what about
yourself?'
She said, 'Messenger of Allah, I am angry with him.'
He said, 'Why?'
She replied, 'Messenger of Allah, he has preferred his wife to me and has
disobeyed me.'
Allah's Messenger said, 'Umm Alqamah,
surely your anger has prevented Alqamah's
tongue from pronouncing the Shahadah.'
He then turned to Bilal and said, 'Bilal, go out and collect a quantity of
firewood.'
She said, 'Messenger of Allah, what do you plan to do?' He replied, 'I will
burn him in
front of your eyes.'
She said, 'Messenger of Allah, he is my son! My heart cannot bear your burning
him in
front of me!'
He said, 'Umm Alqamah, Allah's punishment is more severe and more lasting!
Therefore,
if you want Allah to forgive him, be reconciled to him. By the One in Whose
Hand is my soul, the prayer, fasting, and spending in charity (which he has
done) are of no benefit to Alqamah as long as you are angry with him!'
Thereupon she said, 'Messenger of Allah, I call upon Allah Most High and His
angels and
the Muslims who are present to be my witnesses that I am pleased with my son
Alqamah.'
Allah's Messenger said, 'Bilal, go to him and see whether he is now able to
say, 'La
illaha illa Allah' or not. It may be that Umm Alqamah is saying something for
my sake which is not in her heart.'
Bilal went, and while entering the door he heard Alqamah saying, 'La illaha
illa Allah.'
Bilal remarked, 'It is surely true that while Alqamah's mother was angry with
him
his tongue was tied, and now that she is pleased with him his tongue is freed.'
Alqamah died the same day. The Prophet (saww) came to him and gave the order
for his washing and shrouding, and then prayed the funeral prayer for him and
buried him. He then stood by the side of his grave and said, 'You company of
Muhajireen and Helpers, if anyone favors his wife over his mother, Allah and
His angels and all the people curse him! Allah does not accept his spending (in
charity) and his uprightness unless he repents toward Allah, the Glorious and
Majestic, and reconciles with her and attains her
pleasure, because Allah's pleasure consists in her pleasure and Allah's anger
consists in her anger.'
We must always be respectful and obedient to our parents, they deserve our
utmost attention and respect.
