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Marriage Ceremony in Islam: the Basics Extract and abridged from a handbook on marriage issued by the Islamic Society of North America (ISNA). Saturday, October 25, 2008 The Wali: A wali (guardian) of the bride is necessary to represent her
in concluding the contract. The wali is a male relative who would be her
guardian if she were a minor, for example her father. However, if he is not
available, a brother, uncle, grandfather etc. will suffice. If none of these
exist then a Muslim ruler or judge, and if they do not exist then a prominent
leader of the Muslim community (see Fiqh us sunnah, Syed Sabiq, Sar al-Kitab al
Arabi, "No marriage contract is valid without a wali." - Tirmidhi and Abu Dawood "A woman may not act for another in concluding a marriage contract, and a woman may not conclude her own marriage contract." - Ibn Majah and Daraqutni The Offer and
Acceptance: Both offer and acceptance must be explicit in mentioning the word marriage (or any other word in any language implying a similar situation). Both statements should be made at the same sitting, i.e. one party to the other. The Bride's Agreement: The bride must be agreeable to concluding the marriage by her wali. This agreement should be specific to marrying a specific man and all other conditions, if any, must be agreed upon also. The Witnesses: At least two Muslim male witnesses are required or one male and two females - all of them having reached the age of puberty and being of good character. The Sadaq: The Sadaq or Mahr (dower) is a required marriage gift given by the groom to the bride. It represents his commitment to take care of all the family expenses including her personal needs… "And give women their dower as a free gift." (Surah 4 verse 4) Sadaq may be money or in kind, but it should be specified in its kind and quantity. It may be paid in full at the time of the marriage contract, or postponed until a definite or indefinite date in the future. That which is deferred becomes due upon divorce. The value of Sadaq can be anything from $1 upward (and must be agreed upon by both parties). The Procedure: 1. Witnesses and guests take their seats. 2. The wali of the bride and the groom sit facing each other, close to the witnesses so that they can be seen and heard by the witnesses. 3. A learned man delivers a short ceremonial speech (see the khutbah at the end of this article). 4. Then the wali of the bride addresses the groom with the following words or something similar: "In the name of Allah the Merciful, the Mercy giving, Praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds, and Prayer and Peace be upon the Prophet Muhammad, his family and the companions. I marry to you my daughter (sister/niece etc - mention the full name) whom I represent, in accordance with Islamic Law and the tradition of the Messenger of Allah (pbuh) and for the Sadaq agreed between us." (details of the Sadaq and method of payment may be mentioned). The groom answers: In the name of Allah the Merciful, the Mercy giving, Praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds, and Prayer and Peace be upon the Prophet Muhammad, his family and the companions. I accept to marry the woman you represent, in accordance with Islamic Law and the tradition of the Messenger of Allah (pbuh) and for the Sadaq agreed between us." (details of the Sadaq and method of payment may be mentioned). [This offer and acceptance should be declared in the presence of the witnesses, Allah is the best of witnesses. By this the marriage is concluded and the bride and groom become husband and wife]. 5. To make the marriage publically it is recommended to have a walimah. The Prophet (pbuh) saw a trace of yellow colouring on Abd al Rahman and asked, "What is this?" He answered, I got married. The Prophet (pbuh) said, "May Allah make it a blessing for you. Make a walimah even with only a sheep." - Bukhari, Muslim and others. 6. The best way to congratulate the bride and the groom is to say: "May Allah make it a blessing for you and a blessing to you together with all that is good." - Tirmidhi, Abu Dawood The Marriage Khutbah: [This is not essential; the marriage will be legal without it; however, it is Sunnah to have a Khutbah]. Praise be to Almighty Allah, the Sustainer of the Worlds Whom we ask help and pardon. We seek refuge in Allah from the evils within ourselves and from our evil actions. He whom Allah guides no one can lead astray and he who He leaves in error has no one to guide him. I testify that there is no deity but Allah and that Muhammad is His servant and His messenger. Almighty Allah has created humanity, male and female, each in need of another, and has established the institution of marriage as a means of uniting the souls in a blessed bond of love leading to their pleasure and happiness in a way advantageous to humankind. The Quran says, "It is He Who has created man from water: then has He established relationships of lineage and marriage: for your Lord has power (over all things). " (25:54) And He reminds us of His great favors: "And among His signs is that He created for you of yourselves spouses that you may live in joy with them, and He has set between you love and mercy. Surely in that are signs for those who reflect." (30:22) And Peace and Blessing be upon His great and beloved Prophet and last Messenger Muhammad, who emphatically urged Muslims to marry. He said: "Young men, those of you who can afford to marry should do so. Marriage is the best check for lustful eyes and an effective help to maintain chastity." Brothers and sisters, at this auspicious moment, we are uniting in the bond of marriage and obedience to the guidance of our Creator and in obedience to the practice of our beloved Prophet (pbuh), our brother (his name) and sister (her name) who have decided to live together as husband and wife, sheltered with the blessings of Almighty Allah and His divine Benevolence. May Allah fill their lives with joy and may He grant them peace, health and prosperity. May they always live together in an atmosphere of tranquility and never diminishing love and tender regard for each other. Posted by Muskan at 10:34 AM http://islamicshaadi.blogspot.com/2008/10/marriage-ceremony-in-islam-basics.html |
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