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Anger
Transcribed
Lecture of Dr.
Saleh as-Saleh (rahimahullaah) You
can Listen to the lecture Here . Transcribed by -
Fatimah bint Mohamed min The next topic of tonight, insha Allah will be, on the following title, a short
talk about a matter which all of us need, and this is to know of anger. We all
get angry. And getting angry is just one of our natural instincts. And anger
affects everybody, young and old. Muslim or non-Muslim. But the difference lies
with the way a Muslim approaches his/her anger: how it should be. Because they
are some Muslims who are not abiding by the way to deal with anger, that you
can’t really differentiate them from others, from the non-Muslims, or
otherwise. We know that whenever someone loses their temper, their anger begins
to control them. It orders them and it forbids them, and so one becomes
subservient to ones anger without realizing it. This sadly happens very
frequently. If we look into our own selves or own lives, and often with disastrous
consequences. People have kept off ties because of heated words, exchanged in
anger. People have killed each other because of their anger. You can hit
someone or kill someone because of your anger. The husband may hit his wife out
of anger or the other way around. But there is an urgent need for Muslims to
put into practice the teachings of our Prophet Muhammad (salAllahu ‘alayhi
wasalam) and learn to control our anger. Anger in itself is not forbidden, we
spoke about this earlier. Feeling angry is natural. The Prophet Muhammad (salAllahu
‘alayhi wasalam) did not forbid anger itself but what has been forbidden is
when we act upon the anger unjustly. He also told us what steps to take in
order to control this anger. For example, Suleiman ibn Suraad relates, that he
was sitting with the Prophet (salAllahu ‘alayhi wasalam) when two people fell
out and exchanged hot words. The face of one of them became red, and his veins
of his neck became swollen. The Prophet (salAllahu ‘alayhi wasalam) said,
"If he could repeat a phrase of which I know, he will get rid of the
condition of which he is in. If he said, “a’udubillahii minashaytaani rajeem”
(I seek refuge with Allah against Shaytaan, the rejected one) then that which
he is experiencing would have gone away from him". This is reported in Sahih Bukhari and Sahih Muslim.
Another time the Prophet (salAllahu ‘alayhi wasalam) said: “when one of you
gets angry while standing up, he should sit down. Then the anger will leave
him. And if not, then he should lie down.” This is Sahih Hadeeth reported by
Abu Dar, in Sunun Abi Dawud.
‘Abdullah ibn ‘Umar relates that the Prophet (salAllahu ‘alayhi
wasalam) said: “no gulp has a greater reward with Allah than the swallowing of
rage, which a servant surpasses seeking the Face of Allah.” So when someone has
done some wrong to you and you are about to say or do something that neither
you or that person will ever forget, and instead of acting upon his anger, if
you stop and swallow this, then this so belongs to Allah (subhanahu wa Ta’ala).
These ahadith which I mentioned,
should be taken in context. It doesn’t mean that we should never become angry
or display our anger. There are certain situations where we should become
angry. With tawheed being undermined for instance, or when people are looking
down upon the Sunnah of the messenger Muhammad
(salAllahu ‘alayhi wasalam) or when Muslims are being killed or treated
unjustly. We know that under circumstances, such as these, it is correct to be
angry because there are many occasions like these where the Prophet (salAllahu
‘alayhi wasalam) became angry. For example, when he saw pictures of animals
hanging in ‘Aishah’s house, as in Sahih Bukhari or when he heard of men who
failed to attend the congregational prayer, also in Sahih al Bukhari. All these
things caused him to be angry. But his anger was always for the sake of Allah
not for any person or injury. And that is why ‘Aishah (radiAllahu Ta’alaa anha)
said: (talking about the Messenger (salAllahu ‘alayhi wasalam)) “he never took
revenge on his own behalf for anything unless of which Allah has forbidden, has
been transgressed, in which case he took revenge for it for Allah’s sake.” When
we talk about anger, it is not only the anger we feel when we are in wrong, but
also experience anger when we feel that we are in the right. We feel that
someone has wronged us and that we must defend ourselves. Here again, we must
not let shaytaan ever order us to act on that anger and be unjust making us
believe we are correct in doing so. The Prophet (salAllahu ‘alayhi
wasalam) said: “I am a claimant for a house on the outskirts of paradise for
one who leaves off arguing, even if he is right, and maybe our act of
repressing anger, when in a position to give them to it, will yieldfruitful
results.”[Hasan hadith. See 'Saheeh ul-Jaami us-Sagheer' (no.1477). ] Allah says, in Surat Fussilat
chapter 41, verse 34, “repel the evil with one which is better, then verily, he
between whom, you are in enmity, will become as though you are close friends.” Therefore, insha Allah, we must try
to follow the example of Prophet Muhammad Muhammad (salAllahu ‘alayhi wasalam)
to not become angry except for the sake of Allah. The Messenger (salAllahu
‘alayhi wasalam) has left us with numerous ahadith concerning anger and you can
find them in chapters of that in books of ahadith. And we must really try to
implement this guidance and this is a reminder for myself, wallahi first and
for all of us. -- You are invited to join us in benefiting from the works
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